Hi! I’m Danny!

If you’re new here, read about “Why I am building Nomad Nexus” here.

Thank you, appreciate your time. Cheers!

Today:

1. Accommodation for the retreat figured out!

2. How my birthday showed me what real wealth is.

3. Kirgisistan and what an evening beer can do.

Khmkhm…

I’m writing this on my way to Istanbul, in a what we call in Russian “Marshrutka”, a mix of a bus and personal communistic hell.

After crossing the Bulgarian-Turkish border today at 2am, we overslept all possible direct Istanbul busses from Edirne and got into this situation that made our Kirgisistan Adventure even more absurd.

Honestly, im tired of sitting.

I hope I will forget this part of it, it’s honestly not the most romantic and comfortable journey I have done so far.

But…

Lombok accommodation is secured!

You now can choose between three different room types:

1. 7 Cozy Double Bed Rooms

2. 2 Bungalows

3. 1 Superior Bungalow

Hard but quick decision has been fallen. I booked this whole, exclusive area just for us.

Learn more about it here.

Finding something that exclusive for 16 rooms was hard.

As soon as I start promoting the retreat, I will book more just around the corner.

Look at the cozy little terrace that the double room offers though 😍

What is wealth to you?

So I stood there.

A wine glass in the left, the thing you pick the ice cubes with in the right.

“A toast! Always wanted to do one.”

16 eyes stared at me, awaiting the next syllable.

I thanked everyone for coming, and I couldn’t believe I’m actually doing this right now.

I invited. They came.

For me.

For my birthday.

Grown ass adults.

They wanted to come.

Just to see and gratulate.

Those are friends now.

They like me.

For me.

This feels rich.

That felt like wealth.

Not the money I made in the past year, nor the countries I visited felt this good.

The relationships you build while growing up are based on convenience, not on values.

You’re probably gonna become friends with your roommate or neighbour.

Because they are near.

You don’t look for them.

Probably, you will get along quite well.

It doesn’t matter if you share values with them, you share something bigger: loneliness.

You fulfil each others needs of somebody, rather than this one.

More self development - less friends.

More values you will want to share.

The lonelier you accept sometimes yourself to be.

More work to maintain such relationships. More commitment.

More outcome.

A friend of mine, Armand, disagrees with the reduction of such friendships to mere convenience. He says, deeper friendships often form with people you meet due to convenience but later discover shared values. You need to get to know someone enough to understand shared values and feelings.

We agree on the essence of a meaningful relationship though. It lies in shared values and understanding.

I’d just rather skip the “convenience friendship that may develop further” part. Because I’m not going to stay for the next decade, rather for the next weeks.

“One of the hardest things about pursuing your dreams and pursuing your goals is that a lot of the people that are in your life right now will not support the future version of you that you need to become in order to accomplish those goals.” (“My extreme views on Friendships” from Alex Hormozi - Highly recommended, Alex talks in such a relatable, direct human language)

And you know what? It hurts.

It hurts to find out that the beer doesn’t taste the same anymore going out with your boys.

It hurts to realise you don’t have common topics to talk about anymore.

It hurts to try to, just for the evening.

And the more does the hangover hurt the next day, because it didn’t even feel right in the first place.

If you feel like that, it’ll be all good. Trust me.

I can not emphasise following enough, with tears in my eyes: "Just. Go.”

I rented a car the day Dennis landed in Sofia.

It was my birthday.

He flew in.

“You’re gonna be away for six hours and a taxi would have been cheaper.”, someone said.

Not only is Dennis co-responsible for me building Nomad Nexus, a community, my dream every single day, he is also an amazing friend.

Fuck yes I’m picking him up from the airport.

…and buying tickets to Kirgisistan.

Well, he is also co-responsible for 🇰🇬 on my list now.

Pretty nice so far, will update you next week!

Cheers,

Danny.

P.S.: I realise from day to day more, that I’m writing about Nomad Nexus to connect and inspire. It’s kinda like writing to the old version of myself. This means the world to me, that you read it.